I read an interesting article today on mindset research done on various age groups and walks of life. Go ahead, read it, I'll wait.
The interesting parts for me is that as long as you have a growth-mindset, you will always be able to improve yourself, whether it be skills, emotional, etc.
If you have that fixed mindet, you'll be stuck in a rut until death gets you out of it.
Now, for me, thinking about my mindset, I think I'm a mix between the two, where I continuously try to improve on things that interest me, and have a fixed mindset on things that don't. I will certainly try to change this perception, but I think it will be a hard fight with the ego for anyone to change this in their adult years.
What I can do for my kids, is to nurture this growth-mindset, and try to get rid of the fixed-mindset completely. I think my parents got it right most of the time, I'll have to go for some advice on this.
The way I plan to nurture this for a start, is to praise them for the effort they put in, and not necessarily for the achievement at the end.
In a way I'm already doing this with Josh.
He's been giving up on games if he doesn't get it right after a few tries, and would then come and ask me to get past the part where he's stuck, so he can continue. At first I helped him, but then realised that he gives up way too quickly if there's an easier way out, like asking me. So now I keep on sending him back with the message that I will not help him until he's tried that particular part of the game at least 50 times. The first day he game back to ask after every few tries, but now he's playing on his own, and rarely asks me to help him.